I think what people don’t understand how can one consider masturbation sinful but hooking up with strangers for cyber sex isn’t sinful. It’s not even question of cheating on your wife but how do you have such contradictory beliefs. Where are these beliefs coming from.

As about coming out of the closet and start being polyamorous (cyber sex with strangers isn’t polyamory actually), you are free to do so. It’s not against the law. There are ton of people who do that everywhere in the world.

Do you want people on anonymous forum to give you a “go for it?” We are fine with it. We don’t even know you.

Who isn’t fine with it is your wife. She is the one you need to be asking if it’s ok, not strangers