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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
It's no longer in the DSM as being something bad or wrong. You have a right to pleasure yourself, it's your body. Why do you have to see that as coming out? And maybe your wife simply can't see that you should be able to learn how to self satisfy. If you love her and she is not capable of engaging in sex, then you should at least be able to satisfy yourself. It's just physical and you are not looking for someone else in a relationship, you would just like to enjoy that one pleasure.
I think that other members are telling you that it's really ok for you to pleasure yourself privately. Most will admit they don't see it as wrong or bad or cheating.
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Pleasuring myself privately has been a challenge due to deep seated inhibitions. I'm working on that too. One of my platonic friends suggested a masturbation class. She said it is like a meditation class. LOL
I studied Betty Dodson's sex for one and reached out to them to see if they had any suggestions, but they're geared toward women. I'm hopeful I can get some pointers to get past the psychological barriers that I've only been able to overcome with a partner.