An update is in order here. :-)

First of all, the whole affair did expose issues that were once hidden from plain sight. There is obvious communication issues going on, but that's only one of the problems that we were having. The housework was unfairly balanced, such that I was doing most of the labour and she was doing only bill paying. The social life is non-existant. And it was irritating that I would decide all of the time what to do whenever we go out when half the time I don't even know and she won't contribute any ideas because she doesn't know either. She was also becoming overweight and that was an issue. You know how anxiety, stress and depression manifests themselves into over-eating. That's what was going on and I couldn't get a straight answer from her at all. Also she is still dependant on her parents. For example, going back to the housework issue, she stated to her mother and myself that she was used to having someone doing all the housework for her. As well, when she found out about the affair the first people she did tell were her parents at their house.

What is hopeful is that her parents are pretty open-minded and they know the situation. They agree that the both of us needs to make changes in our daily routine or otherwise, yes, divorce, seperation, what have you. I hate to say there is an emphasis on her, but there is. What's more, her mother and I are thinking on the same wavelength, so I wasn't automatically discarded as a cheating creep of a man, but more like a guy struggling to communicate with his wife and becoming frustrated.

Thanks for all the help people!