I think that within forgiving yourself comes forgiving others. Even those who hurt us and try to shame us. We are no better then them if we can’t try to understand the turmoil that may have brought them to being so horrible and terrible and awful. No one wakes up from baby and decides to hurt people. It takes years of negative conditioning and poor mentoring to get them there (and quite a bit of bad judgment). Forgetting is the easy part. Who wants to hold onto bad memories. But letting go of those bad feelings takes maturity and work. Unfortunately, to process and to learn to let go, old memories and emotions are dug up, making it difficult to forgive others.