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Originally Posted by Alive99
I frankly think "responsibility" is the wrong word for this. She maybe made a mistake out of ignorance, she maybe was confused by the abuser (abusers do that WELL), etc. etc. But the abuse was not her responsibility. That's definitely victim blaming and unfortunately some victims can blame themselves like this and it prevents healing.
And I am saying that while agreeing with you that you do need to get to empowerment in the end, from first accepting that the abuse happened.
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You have to take it up with hope’s friend to see what she really meant and what happened in her own marriage. We could only guess what she meant and what happened in her own life. My guess was just as good as yours. We could be both right or wrong. Unless she posts on here what word she prefers to use, no way for us to know