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Originally Posted by divine1966
They are possibly trying to be good friends but it’s not always easy. Everyone needs different type of supports and it’s not possible to know for sure what’s the right thing to say. They might not know for sure what they need to say to make it perfect and they are just trying their best. I suspect they mean well (your friend probably worries you retraumatize yourself by contacting exes)
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yeah.. exactly. They're all trying to just be good friends. But they are NOT therapists, that's for sure. And both girlfriends of mine are not educated enough or savvy enough on abuse to really be able to help me process it and recover from it. They mean well, they care deeply and I know they love me very much. I know it's all coming from a place of wanting to help - so that counts for a lot in this regard. But really, they cannot play therapist for me, nor should I ask them to. My one college friend who told me that I allowed this, does like to play therapist with me, so I need to create some boundaries with her about it.