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Old Dec 27, 2020, 09:33 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
I’d probably block all your exes right now because if they reply you’ll be dragged into the same cycle again or you might be tempted to check if they replied to your forgiveness message.

I don’t know if you ever read on radical acceptance but that’s what I practice in life and it does wonders. It helps not to intensely react to everything and not dwell on what cannot be changed. It doesn’t mean of course that you have to accept unacceptable things, not at all. Quite the opposite, you stop being dragged into these cycles
Oh yeah - I really don't think they'll reply, and I have no attachment do whether they do or not. I won't get sucked in if they do reply, though.

I have heard of radical acceptance before. I do react strongly and wish I had had greater control over my rage during the first few weeks of our separation. But, what can you do - it's done, I reacted and I cannot change how I reacted.

But yeah, I can see the benefit of radical acceptance.
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