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Old Dec 27, 2020, 09:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
Oh yeah - I really don't think they'll reply, and I have no attachment do whether they do or not. I won't get sucked in if they do reply, though.

I have heard of radical acceptance before. I do react strongly and wish I had had greater control over my rage during the first few weeks of our separation. But, what can you do - it's done, I reacted and I cannot change how I reacted.

But yeah, I can see the benefit of radical acceptance.
Of course you reacted to your husband. By reaction I don’t mean react in anger to things that just happened-that’s normal. We all do. I am the first in line, I react to things all the time. Especially something that just happened!

I mainly meant that acceptance helps to stop dwelling and ruminating on something that happened ages ago and cannot be changed and nothing could be done about it.
Thanks for this!
Have Hope