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Old Dec 27, 2020, 09:55 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Of course you reacted to your husband. By reaction I don’t mean react in anger to things that just happened-that’s normal. We all do. I am the first in line, I react to things all the time. Especially something that just happened!

I mainly meant that acceptance helps to stop dwelling and ruminating on something that happened ages ago and cannot be changed and nothing could be done about it.
Thanks for the validation! Much appreciated.

I believe I will be able to move on and not ruminate SO much on this one this time. I did with my ex fiance - oh boy, did I ruminate!!!!

I am coming to a place now of greater acceptance about who he is, what happened and what is happening now - and that is giving me some sense of closure and peace already. I know there is more to come yet and still, and I may still get angry at him over whatever he says, but I am going to now try to not react to him. That's my goal at least. We'll see if I can actually pull it off, because I AM very reactive.
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