IMO, they did this because they have problems of their own (bias/ignorance about mental illness, projection, there own selfishness, not sure what because I do not know their hearts). It WAS probably hard on your son since he was your child and your Hs (who also probably wasn't perfect). It seems like you weren't the only one who was involved in the drama. It was so MUCH more than spilled milk but life isn't a bed of roses, is it?