So is this Jamie a new girl just hired. As soon as she was hired he mentioned she is pretty but on a heavier side (why would he even say that, to make sure you don’t suspect he likes her?). Most certainly he is attracted to her. If a man has no physical attraction he sure wouldn’t be thinking or dreaming of a woman.

And again you politely explained to him that you lost your trust and you brought up that you two had too many issues even before the affair and his response is “you call the police”. Amazing.

In “sickness and health and rich and poor” doesn’t involve “in affairs and abuse”. He wasn’t sick or became poor. Does he claim that abuse and affairs fall into same category as getting sick or losing ones job???