She went radio silent on me from April to November, I had felt like we were drifting apart and had been increasingly uncomfortable hanging out with her up to when we last met up (in January, I think). It seemed like all we did was watch tv or YouTube videos on her phone with not much real conversation going on. She frequently seemed annoyed when I tried to talk to her. I preferred doing more interactive stuff like board games; we did sometimes, but she usually didn’t feel playing anything. The friendship had also felt a bit superficial for a while. Just us cracking jokes and few really meaningful conversations.
I was trying to let it go, and I’ll be honest, while I missed her a bit - we’d known each other 15 years - I did feel a bit better not being around her.
I’ve had a lot of confusing thoughts about us and our now fractured friendship group lately - there is her and her mum, her best friend, and one of their former mutual friends who I’m friends with.

Former mutual friend is angry at how they’ve all treated her, saying she was basically being used as a free babysitter, hairdresser, cook etc - and when she describes the stuff that’s been going on between them, I have to agree it doesn’t sound like a proper reciprocal friendship, though a casual onlooker wouldn’t realise, and she’s pointed out similar stuff (me being a giver, them taking, that is)she’s seen going on between me and them which I hadn’t picked up on myself. She’s known them far longer than I have, so I trust her judgement.
She hasn’t said she’d think less of me for getting back in touch and I hadn’t intended to, until tonight, but in a way I wonder if I’m just betraying her. Former mutual friend says they don’t have (or want) a life outside the house, have more than they let on (money, friends, help etc) and don’t really respect other people’s time, among other things.

She arranged a birthday party for ex friend’s mum, wanted me to come, but ex friend told her I hadn’t responded to the invitation she agreed to send me. I didn’t get one! Ex friend also made her mum go home early from said party because she (ex friend, not her mum) was tired. So, they went home, even though mutual friend and ex friend’s mum would rather have stayed out.

But, while I thought it might be better to let the friendship slide, I felt bad just ignoring her, thinking while the former mutual friend is justifiably angry, there’s a chance I’ve sided with her too strongly and wondered whether there was still a place for ex friend in my life. Tonight she just dumped all her stuff in a trade to me on this game we both played, sending me a message saying she was leaving and about not understanding what had happened between us, she didn’t regret meeting me and if I ever wanted to talk, I could.
So, I sent an email to apologise for ignoring her, feeling like we’d just been drifting apart and I didn’t know how to fix things - because I was a coward but realised ignoring her recent messages was just a hurtful thing to do, and I wanted to be a better person than that. I should have just responded first time, guess I wasn’t ready to.
I don’t actually know if I want to reconnect with her, though. Maybe my friend is right and I should take her experience as a warning to keep away.