Oh boy- so get this. Here's his latest and newest angle.

He called me last night, so I picked up the phone. God knows WHY I decided to actually speak with him. We've talked only once on the phone since he moved out four weeks ago, and I yelled at him then. That was just the other day.

So he gets me on the phone last night and he proposes that we delay a divorce for several months, that he keeps me on his health insurance, and helps me to pay for it. Then he informs me that I don't need a lawyer, and that his lawyer can represent BOTH OF US. Well, so now he's telling me his lawyer can MEDIATE the divorce AFTER I've told him I am getting and have paid a lawyer. Go figure. So he proposes that I fire my lawyer and use his.

Clearly, he doesn't like that I've gotten myself a lawyer. And now he wants to delay a divorce for several months.

This is really getting OLD. His manipulative tactics.

I am composing my text to him now, telling him I will come off of his health insurance, that there is no need to delay the divorce, and since I've already paid my lawyer, I don't want to backtrack and only use his. There really is only the car lease to negotiate. And knowing how manipulative he is, he is going to try to convince me to stay on the lease through the duration. I feel I need a lawyer to argue and negotiate this on my behalf. My husband knows I will bend and give into what he wants. He's been able to accomplish this so far in our marriage.

My mother tells me I am a pushover. That really hurt me and I was offended at the time, but now that I see how much my husband has been able to manipulate and control me, I'm afraid she's right - I have been a pushover. I hate that about myself - FAR TOO NICE.