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Old Dec 30, 2020, 07:29 AM
Marie123 Marie123 is offline
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
One of my close girlfriends says I am just as responsible for allowing the abuse.

I feel very victim blamed!

I see my mistakes and fault in all of this -- but to say that I allowed this? I take umbrage to that. She is one to beat herself up more than I do in life - she is beating herself up right now for not living up to her own expectations of herself in life.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

I need my friends, but sometimes I don't feel like processing this with them anymore.
Iam SO sorry, people who say things like that are ignorant and cause even more pain. 'When you blame me, you shame me, and keep me silent."
I stayed for 31 years, we can only do what we can do, when we are ready.
Thanks for this!
AzureRain