IG, after reading all your responses to all the good posts made to you, it's my firm conviction that you don't WANT to buy it! You failed to try and understand what was said in the article I posted about Beauty is in the "I". It wasn't speaking of OUTER beauty! You are just too comfortable in your misery and can't or won't take a chance on a different perspective.

Other people, as well as I, have posted to you what we have posted because we are LIVING PROOF that our methods have been tried and found true. They've worked for us!

"Don't depend on others." "Be enough unto yourself." "Accept and love yourself." All of these have been proven to be the basis of being a more complete, healthy human being.

I like to depend on others, still. But it doesn't work any better now than it ever did! When I do this, it's ALWAYS back to the drawing board and I HAVE to depend on myself.

"No man is an island." That is also true. God created Adam and Eve first, so that Adam would not be alone. He then created Eve as his HELPMATE, NOT to complete him. From there, the earth became populated, because "man" should not be alone. Yes, we need love, we need companionship, we need help, but FIRST it should come from within US. If you don't LOVE YOURSELF, you can't love others. If you can't be YOUR OWN COMPANION, you can't be a good companion to others. If you can't HELP YOURSELF, you can't help others.

It seems that you have many great needs. From time to time, you'll find someone that can meet SOME of those needs SOMETIMES. If you keep depending on that someone, you'll soon sap all of their strength, UNLESS they take time to meet their own needs, at which time THEY WILL LET YOU DOWN. There will be needs that they simply won't be able to meet because THEY don't have the knowledge of the need nor the recourses. Only YOU know your need and only YOU know how to meet that need. If you don't, then open up your mind and take in what is being said to you, read books. One I would STRONGLY recommend is Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw. Mr. Bradshaw is the one that made me aware that my needs as a child weren't met and taught me how to identify and meet those needs.

You say you need to depend on others. How many of us have given you our insights and told you what has worked for us, but yet, YOU DON'T ACCEPT OUR HELP! Could it be that you don't really want help but only want others to feel sorry for you? You say you're ugly, the rest of us say you're not. Do you believe us? No! All of your answers are "No!" What gives?? Why post? Why ask?

If you don't want to take our statements as facts, at least THINK about what we're saying before you REJECT our help.