What’s his rationale for delaying it? Being nice and provide you with health insurance? Why all of a sudden? Why all of a sudden he is so “nice” and doesn’t want you to pay fir a lawyer? Bet you he has no good explanation of these weird ideas. The only one I could think is that he hopes you change your mind.

Oh of course he says you want to date. Who cares? Plus plenty of people date while separated and not living together anymore. It’s not against the law. Some divorces drag on for so long that there is no reason to sit and wait. If you wanted to date, you’d date and he isn’t a boss of you. So he is full of it.