Sorry to hear. Are you going to counseling separately? It seems to me that both of you could use professional Intervention for your own personal issues.

Maybe when you are upset you could talk to someone else. Some (most?) Men are not equipped to handle emotional crisis like women do. I have learned my lesson trying to gel my husband to understand/help with my own emo crap, it just spooked him out. I wish I would have just seek counseling for my stuff instead of spooking my husband. I'm not blaming myself,, just reflecting in what I could have done better.

Hope you feel better. Be kind to you now.