Not necessarily. Marriage doesn't equate getting sex on tap.

And yes, things can change over time where one partner may want more and/or the other partner doesn't. It is about compromise and discussions and negotiations with both parties.

You are entitled to your feelings e.g. anger. However, sulking, overt aggression, taking it out on your spouse is manipulative behaviour. IF it escalates, it can quickly become pushy or abusive. If she doesn't want to have sex, these come across as attempts to force her to satisfy you, regardless of her needs.

It's hard to know the real issue - were there any major changes that happened, is there a psychological and/or medical issue... or maybe her libido simply decreased.

If one simply doesn't want to have sex, how can they 'fix' it. It is not as easy as what you imply.

This is, to me, more concerning. IF this is what you feel then I don't see why you are in this marriage. Marriage ought to be a more or less equal, and equitable, exchange between both partners. If one partner neglected the other's feeling *always*, I would reconsider the marriage.


I see how you seem to be doing the 'right' things. However this really comes across as emotional blackmail i.e. do this, or else... and frankly not the way to go about it if you want intimacy with her.

It seems a complex situation (her 'excuses' meaning we don't know what is going on with her, her reluctance to engage in sexual activity with you, her packing etc.) as we don't know her side of the story in all of this. Does she maybe want out of this marriage?

If communication between the two of you is not working out, how about trying for a neutral/impartial third party i.e. marriage counselling?