Dear oregonskater,

I read your post and it seems to me that you have a tremendous amount of insight. Having never been good at relationships, however, I am really the last person on earth who could offer you advice. It seems to me that you are doing all the right things. You write with great detail and your account is so vivid and yet I am really at a loss for what to say. I can't imagine how hard it all is for you. And it so heartbreaking. I am just reading your story and it is so heartbreaking. It is must be much more so for you . . . more than words can convey. I think there are many people here on the Forums with marriage experience, good and bad. I hope they will see your post and read it. Hopefully they will be able to offer you more than my poor words. Please continue to post so we know how things are going and how you are holding up through it all [if you wish]. I sure hope things will improve for you. You have been through so much.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen