Perhaps he has depression and this is his way of trying to gain a sense of control and a sense of his own space. A lot of people have become depressed due to Covid and the election this year. Sometimes a small complaint can be a clue like how he complained about how he did not like your children's messy rooms. He sees their rooms as something he doesn't like looking at but can't seem to get control over.

Some people need their own sense of space and they get that by having a hobby and connections of their own away from the home. So basically, they need a healthy outlet that is theirs. If they don't have that outlet available they can become depressed and moody.

A home full of children can become overwhelming for some in that as they get older they make more noise and take up more space in the environment. It can feel like there is always someone invading your space and not everyone can handle that kind of environment. With the additional pandemic challenge a lot of people feel very trapped and caged. This has put a big strain on so many relationships.

Your husband's choice to get this trailer and set it up for himself someplace is his way of finding a way to actully have his own space and sense of privacy. It's like his man cave. It is not so much that he is leaving you personally, but instead creating his own space.

He got intimate with you on Christmas which tells me he still loves you but he needs a sense of his own space so he got a man cave on wheels.

We tend to think that if a relationship doesn't follow a certain pattern then things are bad. People will start thinking "he is cheating" in some way if things don't go a certain way when in reality often it's an attempt to have something that is separate that gives a sense of distance that is for "self" and personal freedoms.

Maybe you could work this out where the two of you have a bit of an affair in his man cave on wheels. Yet, he controls his own space and it remains his space/man cave. He has said he still wants to be married and he got intimate with you. So I think this is really about him gaining a sense of his own space. Think about it, it's probably quiet, set up the way he wants and he watches what he wants on TV and when he wants to sleep he can have quiet and sleep and no one is IN his space and he has privacy.

I see this a lot where a person is experiencing relationship challenges and they provide a list of all the things they do as though all these things should be rewarded in some way. Truth is, often that isn't what is important to the other person, they don't want to HAVE to owe and be the teacher or parent or boss that hands out the awards. Instead they want a sense of self and some privacy and a way of not having to serve a purpose for someone else. They instead want FREE TIME or a RECESS away from demands.