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Originally Posted by eskielover
Sometimes the TRUTH needs to be said about how we feel whether it hurts or not. It would be something to feel guilty about If that was NOT how you truly felt but said it to only be hurtful.
I believe in bad relationships where we want out & the other person is trying to CLING ON that hurtful is sometimes necessary.. it doesn't necessarily mean toxic.....sometimes it is the only way to cut THEIR TIES & make it final.....this can be in marriage or just friendships that need to be ended. But we have to cut communications at that point too. I just don't mess around with people I don't want in my life any more. I take a stand so they don't wonder about my thoughts....then I end the communication or friendship & if on social media, block if it becomes necessary. I have no tolerance for other people crap any more. Used to just let it slide & ignore. Now I take actions & remove. Yes, age, wisdom....& a lot of self-confidence
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Thank you.
I did not say it to be hurtful in fact. I said it to be honest and forthcoming with him on how I truly feel.
I like what you wrote here - maybe subconsciously it was MY way of telling him from a new angle that this is truly over between us - that he made me unhappy and that I am far happier without him.
I don't have time for people's crap either. I am far too old for this.