Honestly, my belief is that the most difficult part of a relationship is communication. Without that, intimacy is very difficult. For some reason, men and women feel the need to play games, shame, and look for excuses to behave in one way or another. I am not sure if it's excuses or behavior they have seen in their own family, but I know a working relationship does not involves these strategic tactics. In my last two relationships, I felt like my partner was treating me like a dog. Rewarding me without telling me why, and taking himself away as like a punishment for an issue we simply disagree on. WE ARE NOT PETS, or dogs, we are humans and I am sorry I am venting on your thread, because I know I have said things I regret. I just can't tolerate the way people treat each other. one negative behavior leads to another. a working relationship is not TIT for TAT. THIS IS 2020! traditions are not the same as they once were and women have different and more resources and opportunities but often would prefer a partner to share a simple life with and don't need to be guilted or shamed into it.

if you love your wife, you can work to salvage your relationship by bettering yourself and being patient with her. Be honest without being too vulnerable and see where that takes you. Maybe time apart could help also, but I would working on your time together first. Make the first step towards bettering your relationship.