Hi forevergirl,

Hey, try to take it easy on yourself! You're so young, this situation would be fraught for anyone nevermind a young woman like yourself. It's natural to feel insecure and even jealous in this situation.

It's natural to resent the one you love having had any life before you at all, for a little while but then you learn to see how silly that is, how funny ultimatley because the one you love is that way primarily because of ALL the experiences that he has had and how that's fed into him over the course of his life. It can be a sign of the fierceness of your love, the passion that's there, the magic of having found each other. I guess the thing to remember is that all the experiences, and that includes past relationships, have all drifted through this person and made some change in him or left some mark that contribute to the wholeness of the person you've fallen in love with. Does that make sense?

The important thing is that he's with YOU now! And the fact that he's a good father is a wonderful thing that attests to his character, which is all a part of what you love about him.

Try to deal with your own insecurity, to think about what it is exactly that makes you feel left out or not the center of his life. If he's good to you, reassuring and understanding, and makes an effort to include you in his relationship with his child, then you just have to take it slow and try to get to know her as a little person who is likely as nervous about you as you are about her.

You'll be allright.