My son is 19. He has been suffering from depression. He lost his job just during the pandemic. He has not found a new job and I do not give him gas money but have paid his phone bill. I struggle on whether or not this is enabling him or not. Partly I feel it is. and yet I also consider the time and circumstances we are in and feel that he could use some help. I want to tell him that no more in the new year that Dec was the last bill that I will pay, he needs to start getting past his depression and start caring and make some money somehow. I myself am in the apathetic state of mind, and not sure if I am headed towards a depressive state myself.
even when I say no more money, another part gives in and gives it to him. I guess it is a constant struggle.