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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think maybe tisha meant that you are saying or at least said before that you are divorcing or in a process of divorce or going through divorce. But if you didn’t file, you are not in a process of divorce at all. My ex husband and I lived apart separated for a year before we filed, we never said we are in a process of divorce or divorcing until we actually filed for divorce. Separation and divorce isn’t the same thing. Many people actually reconcile after separation. You aren’t divorcing your husband yet.
I’d not be negotiating with him. Unless you want to stay separated for awhile which is actually a valid option, I’d file for divorce
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That is semantics - purely semantics and logistics. We ARE in the process of a divorce. His lawyer is drafting the divorce agreement right now. I have hired and paid a lawyer, who has spoken with his lawyer. We've been separated for one month. There is no going back. Why does it have to be you're not divorcing until someone files? Who cares? We are going through a divorce - and we will get a divorce. We are in the midst of a divorce. This is really silly to make a point of whether we are in the beginning, middle or end of a divorce.