That is semantics - purely semantics and logistics. We ARE in the process of a divorce. His lawyer is drafting the divorce agreement right now. I have hired and paid a lawyer, who has spoken with his lawyer. We've been separated for one month. There is no going back. Why does it have to be you're not divorcing until someone files? Who cares? We are going through a divorce - and we will get a divorce. We are in the midst of a divorce. This is really silly to make a point of whether we are in the beginning, middle or end of a divorce.