If I need T I call him.

If I need an extended conversation I ask for a phone session. Sometimes they are "mini" sessions and sometimes the full blown session.

If I just want to tell him something I leave a message on the machine.

Once or twice he hasn't called back and if I really need him I call again. If it's something that can wait, I let it wait because when he doesn't call back I know it means he's really busy. (But I still get ticked off.) LOL

We have had HUGE fights over this issue. But now we are in a pretty good place with it. He's quite responsive and encourages me to call if I am in need.

I don't think my calling has anything to do with the pace of my therapy although sometimes a high need can be a sign to slow down and look at something more closely, because something is triggering me, so together we try to figure it out.

Peace