Unfortunately there are always going to be some people out there that just want to use you. The best thing to do is to try and recognize them as soon as you can and cut them out of your Life if you find them toxic. i am so Sorry that you're going through ALL of this and i Hope and Pray that you will find some inner and outer Peace soon! SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Werewoman, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!