When, after trying every way you know how to make a relationship better, even searching for new ways, after begging for the other person to get help with their issues to no avail, after enduring the pain they've inflicted over and over, there comes a day when you have to admit to yourself that they will never feel the same way about you, that they will never be the person you want or need.

I love my husband more than I have loved any other man in my life. The day I married him, I handed myself to him, mind, body and soul. I gave him my trust, my friendship, my soul. He broke my trust, turned to others for friendship, and his selfishness and inconsiderate behavior have left a hole in my soul. That being said, it has to be over. When you know that the other person won't try to change, or when they are incapable of it, and all the future holds is more of the same behavior, more hurt for you, it's time to give up.

I have given up.