Open Eyes / Have Hope - No, we have not been happy for a long time. But I honestly believe we could be happy again with a lot of hard work from us both. If there was infidelity on either side, there would be no hope. If there was violence from either side, there would be no hope. We have both understood that from the beginning. There is no infidelity or violence involved. The issues in my marriage are "fixable", and it is difficult for me to accept this as so much is at stake but ultimately being thrown away because one person is just done trying. Our kids are in their teens.