That's exactly where I am in my marriage. I don't wish to try and I don't want couples counseling. I am just done. But then again, he has abused me severely in this marriage, so that's why I am done with him.

A few years of unhappiness is a long time in a marriage. While you may see this as fixable, she may not at all. Both people have to want to salvage the marriage in order for counseling to work. Why wasn't it addressed earlier? The problems that were causing both of you to be unhappy? I am not blaming you or pointing fingers, but rather I am curious why it wasn't addressed sooner?

As sad and as painful as it can be, accepting an ending may be the way you have to go since a divorce is imminent. You could give it a last ditch effort and try to talk her into counseling to resolve the issues, but be prepared for the possibility that she may not want to.