@Have Hope I know how scary divorce can be because there is so much at stake. A family member went through it and had to work through a lawyer because it was so contentious. If he is the only one you get angry about, that is a good thing. I shared those videos because the stress of divorce can cause us other problems until it is finalized. I admit to judging this--when you told him "he appalls and disgusts me and is a despicable human being"-- I thought to myself that these words are better left unsaid. Sorry. Perhaps I also should have kept my thoughts to myself...