Good questions! I'm interested in any answers too.

L is definitely not blank slate. She, of course, doesn't share her personal issues with unless they apply to my situation, will help me, and/or affects me. Other bits of information, she shares freely. I do not ha e her personal number or anything like that. She is not available 24/7. She doesn't hold me or coddle me. We do mention my younger parts, but we don't actually talk to them (she knows I hate that type of therapy!).