Good Lord almighty!

I am a member of several abuse groups on Facebook and read and hear countless stories of abuse from women and men, including stories of narcissistic abuse.

I am talking to a woman (God bless her) who believes her abusive narc's poisonous words and lies to her, ie, "I've never been this way with anyone else", "I am better now", "I was depressed and down and out and that's why I behaved that way in our relationship", "YOU are a narcissist and are toxic for me - I will have to see if I want to give this another try" - the words from an abusive narcissist towards his victim.

My abusive narc husband has tried to instill the same type of poison in my life. "I've never cheated before you", "I was not myself", "you called the police on me. You have no idea what that did to me", "you have a disorder", "you're the one acting with explosive anger and rage right now" - uh huh, yeah. That's because you betrayed me when you promised you never would! You abusive a-hole.

ALL SHEER POISON.

Bottom line: we have to be SO self assured within ourselves, as women and men, to NOT allow these types of manipulations and deflections to occur.

And that's exactly what this is: poisonous words that infect, and it's all an act of manipulation and deflection.

My abusive husband has tried SO many manipulation tactics on me recently. I see right through it all though.

I feel SICK, seriously SICK to my stomach reading all these stories of abuse - not only these stories, but also given the gaslighting, the deflections, and false accusations that I receive from my narc husband. He threw in my face the other day the fact that I had been hospitalized years ago, trying to build the case that I have a disorder and am unstable vs. himself being the root of the problem. Uh huh - I've only been acting unstable lately as a result of YOUR ABUSE TOWARDS ME.

I am trying to help people on Facebook to get out of these abusive situations and relationships. But, it takes STRENGTH and COURAGE to do so. And it takes an unfaltering belief in oneself that one deserves far better.

I hope by posting this thread that it helps someone who may be experiencing abuse.

Feel free to comment and contribute.