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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I had a friend who shared so many experiences with me in the past. We’d reminisce about them in the present. After we talked about all of the old times, she kept bringing them up. I felt like we should be moving forward to making new memories in the present. That’s living in the past to me.
For those of us who have unresolved issues from the past, we need to revisit it to learn and grow. The length of time that takes is unknown; it just takes what it takes. It might need so much reflection that it feels like you are living in the past. You need to see light at the end of the tunnel.
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Wow that has to be so energy draining. Constantly hearing about the past like that. Yeah I've been in that position to where someone just talks about the past non-stop. It's one thing to bring up the past at times with other people, especially on here, as learning lessons, but to be so stuck in the past that you can't live in the present and make new memories is very tiring. I remember back in college, someone who I know longer hang out with did that.
After a break up that she initiated out of control, she kept on mentioning everything that reminded her of their relationship. Like, "Oh, I remember sitting on that bench and talking about stuff." Oh, we kissed for the first time in this hallway." Or, "At this time last year, we were doing this stuff." That went on for a very long time. I understand doing that for a bit, but doing that for months, even over a year afterwards, became too much. I totally get how that feels to be around someone who brings up the past so much like that.