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Originally Posted by unaluna
I would say your ts were modeling adult relationships, which your parents were unable to do, so in that sense, yeah a bit of reparenting. They held you in that space, where perhaps you hadnt been held before. To have a reasonable expectation of another adult.
Its not that ANY such relationship is reparenting. But when it is a repairing relationship with a t, i think it is reasonable to call it reparenting, if that is what it is repairing. And look at the word repair - what is the etymology of that?
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I see what you are saying (kinda?) but we are in our mid 50s and by now have idea of adult relationships and what’s reasonable even if my parents weren’t teaching something. By now I think I at least somewhat know what’s reasonable expectation of another adult is. I don’t think my t knows more than me about adult expectations. I’d not be able to keep my job if I didn’t know how adults suppose to act or what is reasonable to expect. No way! I’d be eaten alive!
That's why I am just not fully grasping this whole re parenting idea. Maybe I just understand it literally like t would act like my parent. Mmm no, but thank you no
Maybe when I was young and saw a t and t would do something like that? Maybe? I never saw a t until much later in life, that’s why I am just looking at it from my old self perspective I guess?
I am not trying to be obtuse here. I just asked my husband who had way more therapy than me what he thinks of it. He wasn’t really sure what’s this about. He had abusive asinine father and useless mother, so he kinda parented himself later in life. He finds therapy extremely helpful but he doesn’t believe it has anything to do with re parenting.
Maybe because it’s different kind of therapy that people discuss on here that I am just not familiar with.
I reread your post and see you mention “repairing” something. That kind of makes sense