I really think most of the trust in my relationship with T has come as a result of ruptures. Our first one was a big one - to the point where when we were working through it he said "wow, I suck!" lol. When he makes a mistake, I get to learn how to confront someone (something I'm SO not good at) and to state what I think happened and what I need. And he always, ALWAYS owns up to his part in it. And then I trust him more. If he was perfect, I'd probably be the same shut down person that I was when I first walked in his door.