As someone with solid real parenting relationships, I personally find the idea of "reparenting" cringe-worthy at best, but I can see how the idea of getting that kind of affirmation and guidance and acceptance from someone eventually in life can be healing and would not at all say it is not helpful for someone else.

My husband's real parents were horrific. He eventually learned what "real" parenting was from his saint of a grandmother and eventually from solid relationships with me and my family. I don't think he'd say his therapy had anything to do with that, although he made other gains through his own therapy.

The fortunate thing about therapy is there is not just one approach for it. People and their issues and needs are as varied as the stars, so it makes sense that therapy modalities are also varied. For people to say that "their" therapy is the right one, or that some other therapy isn't really therapy is just not kind or terribly aware (that's the safest way I have of saying that.)

Scarlet, I hope your continued therapy continues to work well for you and that you can gain more understanding of the approach your therapist is taking. You've come a long way over the last few years.