i agree with the wise and wonderful Open Eyes and Have Hope. Both parties need to work together to adress the issues on the plate so that they can start working on it. I'd try to talk her out into Marriage counselling if you haven't already, but there isn't much more that you can do besides that, i am afraid. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @WW Victim, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!