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Originally Posted by eskielover
Here is my take on it after outstanding therapy & starting a new life fir myself in a whole new location that had no past for me only a future.
First off, I have learned NEW SKILLS from my past experiences. I don't have to continually think about the past to enact those skills because they are now just a normal part of my life like eating or breathing. Those new skills put in practice until they become our new way is what our focus needs to be on, not the past itself.
This is what my T worked on most & it has changed my life from where it was 13 1/2 years ago when I first moved here.
When we get trapped in past details instead of concepts learned from them, that is when we get stuck living in the past. I have a new life & I am thriving beyond anything I ever experienced in my past even though I had a successful computer engineering career. I would never want to go back even in my mind to the life I had but I learned so much that has given me the freedom to live my life totally in the present & love it & thrive like never before
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Yep that actually makes sense and is a great approach to keeping the skills you have learned without living in the past.