I can understand this, I do it a bit too. I think I just get used to it and don't realize how bad it can be. I don't know how to stop doing this, but perhaps working on validating your experience could be helpful. If you tend to brush it off as no big deal, maybe you aren't acknowledging how much it really impacts you? Perhaps writing about it and how it affects you could be an idea. Do you tend to be someone who ignores your needs? I know I used to do that, and I think that was tied into it. Trying to pretend it didn't matter to me, when really it was quite hard. Perhaps your therapist would have some tips for this issue? It's good you are recognizing it I think.