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Originally Posted by divine1966
I like an idea of emotional atunement, is it something that could be done by a loving partner or a good friend too? It’s mutually attuned in those relationships (if they are healthy).
Is it mutual with a therapist? Like should you be attuned to therapist’s feelings too? Or it’s one way?
I find this topic very interesting.
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From what I understand, yes it can come from any relationship and in those relationship it can be mutual. Even with the therapist it can be mutual (again from what I understand. L says it's important she does this with me because my feelings were usually invalidated growing up. Even ex-T invalidated my feelings.
She quoted this in her email:
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"People with BDP often grow up in chronically invalidating environments, with parents who minimize, dismiss, attack, and fail to attune to them."
"Secure attachment can be formed early in childhood through good-enough parenting. In parent-child relationships with secure emotional bonds, attunement happens about 30% of the time. This reminds us that you don't have to have perfect attunement 100% of the time to be a good parent. In fact, parents miss-attune to kids all the time because we are different and misses are normal. But when the effort and warmth is there, and the ability to repair, then there can be trust and security."
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