So he hid money from you to buy a trailer where he hides stuff from you

He lies

He packed up and left while you weren’t even home

He left you

He thinks he can lie, hide and live elsewhere but come have sex with a woman, well he isn’t entitled to sex and he is not being respectful. This isn’t love

He doesn’t help around the house. He literally does nothing

He is bothered by children, why have them?

I do understand it hurts but you need to protect yourself. If he is hiding things as not to split them in divorce, you and your children might end up really hurt. You will be in a huge dis advantage

It doesn’t work that way that if you act like a submissive wife allowing mistreatment, then he will change his mind and become a good husband and come back. You can’t change people. Doesn’t work that way

I recommend you consult with someone re what to do to be protected financially and otherwise. If it’s mutual money and he just buys whatever, it’s dangerous. You might have nothing left one day

I am so sorry you are in this terrible predicament.