Actually regardless how bad things look you can always maintain friendly rapport with each other and co parent amicably. It doesn’t need to be a battle or bitterness at all. It could be a peaceful negotiation, there is nothing wrong with feeling compassion. Heck there are plenty of married people staying together in bitterness, anger and disrespect for each other. There is nothing wrong with divorcing in a compassionate kind way.

I don’t blame you for wanting him to pack his stuff and go. You are not running a hotel. He can’t just go sleep one night elsewhere and then return like nothing happened. That’s disrespectful.

Life is too short to spend it in misery and I’d never advice anyone to devote their life to misery. There is more to life than pain and suffering.

I think it’s entirely possible when you two finally go separate ways but establish good routine for the children and both are demonstrating good models of healthy life for your kids, you’ll heal and you will live a good life. I promise you that.

I wish you the best. Hugs