That is physical neglect, mental torture and emotional neglect that you have suffered.

I was once told by a T that we are responsible for our adult selves. ???

We can try and take responsibility but we have faulty brains.

Our best is good enough. I am trying to learn this...

You are a wonderful, kind and caring person even though your parents sabotaged your happiness in favour of their own.

Thank you for being here Fuzzybear.