So, yesterday, through a text exchange about moving details, he wrote "I hope you are doing OK", which elicited anger on my part towards him all over again. I told him, "how do you think I'm doing? I'm disappointed, angry and hurt. You have failed me as a husband and you have deeply disappointed me."

Which then instigated more of a sob story from him:

"I don't know what happened. I was not myself. I have never done anything like that before. We had a rough patch. I cannot live my life without you. I am numb, and I've disappointed everyone. I cannot live with myself in knowing this. I so miss you and still love you, etc etc."

What I've learned:

I cannot listen to his BS anymore. I cannot believe anything he says, and I just cannot listen to him.

I didn't give that text the time of day. I went on to discuss business only. I am not replying to these types of sob story texts that are full of BS and lies. IF I do, I only become angry and triggered and then I look like the crazy one reacting to him in disgust and rage. So, no more.

I wonder if this is similar to the gray rock method? Maybe I'm implementing that and I don't even realize it now.