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Originally Posted by divine1966
No, telling him you are disappointed and hurt isn’t a grey rock, it’s opposite of it. Ignoring it and not replying to such texts at all is. Then later you could write (only if you have to convey something like if there is a specific info to convey) with “your stuff have to be moved out by 31st” or “appointment with our lawyers is scheduled for tomorrow” is a grey rock. End of communication. No engaging with emotions. Every time you show emotions it’s not grey rock and it starts cycle again. Grey rock method is meant to keep you out of a cycle and also hopefully to get other person to back off. He writes these things because you respond
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Ugh - ok, thanks for explaining that further.
I have a ways to go still - he still triggers me and I still respond to him. I was pissed that he asked if I was Ok. What is he thinking? Of course I am not ok - I am unemployed, I am stressed, I am drinking more, I am going through a terrible divorce, and I am alone in my home all day long. It's like, of course I'm not ok, you idiot.