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Old Jan 07, 2021, 07:13 AM
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Originally Posted by RoxanneToto View Post
It’s likely more of a hook, or maybe even an attempt to push your buttons , rather than a genuine concern he’s showing for the situation his choices landed you in. I really sympathise, though. Your emotions are going to be strong right now, anyway, so it’s harder not to react. You have to make very conscious efforts not to.
I’m betting my former friend was hurting when I ended the friendship, but I didn’t ask if she was ok because while I truly am done with our friendship, I still care enough not to pour salt on the wound, so to speak.
Yeah, I suppose it's possible he's trying to push my buttons OR he's trying to bait me so that I tell him how awful I feel. Maybe misery wants company. He tells me frequently how miserable he is and how he just wants to "come home" to me.

At the same time, he'll say things like "have a good day", which he knows upsets me because I've told him it upsets me. So that is far more clear that he is deliberately trying to upset and trigger me.
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