I find that people are the exact opposite of that. They do whatever, and I mean WHATEVER, possible to not have an opinion. No matter who they hurt in the process.

I think it’s natural to feel like your being judged or criticized and it is likely people secretary are doing that (sorry if they are being blatantly harsh) all the time. Maybe try addressing the issues one at a time as you are faced with them (but don’t let unthoughtful comments effect you too much) or stop seeing the people who do this.

Sometimes you just need to be patient with people until they get it. Sometimes people just aren’t in the right state of mind to overcome their own insecurities. You can try to be there with them, or you can move on.