Here is a youtube link you can listen to, there are also many other discussions that can be helpful to you to listen to. I selected this one in consideration of how you are struggling so much emotionally and how that may be a sign that you are experiencing some secondary ptsd symptoms yourself.

As I mentioned, it's very important to get the right advice instead of taking in advice that can lead you down the wrong road and serve to cause you more pain or even worse question yourself in ways that are not helpful or productive in your personal challenge.

Support for spouses of war veterans that struggle with ptsd - Yahoo Video Search Results